How to Get Back the Personal Connection that Facebook Took Away

Jessica Edwards, special to Nvate

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Yes, Facebook is awesome. Yes, it allows you to connect with your friends and family in a way that helps you feel closer and more involved in the lives of others. Plus, it’s awesome for sharing your baby’s photos with anyone who will look at them. However, it is important to remember that Facebook is not an acceptable substitute for real life. In fact, it may be good for your psyche to create a little bit of separation.

A new study published in the Science World Report found that people who spent a lot of time on Facebook showed less satisfaction in their personal lives. This is probably because that personal connection is missing. But don’t worry, here’s what you can do to get it back.

Send a Gift

Before Facebook, what would you do if someone had a baby or got sick? You would probably send them a gift. However, now that social media is so popular, people seem to think it’s enough to send congrats and condolences via the Facebook comments section. That is not OK.

A comment on Facebook is nice, but it takes almost no effort on your part. Instead, you should go the extra mile and follow up with a small gift. For example, if someone just had a baby, why not send them a Carter’s baby layette set? If your friend posts that they are really sick, a simple gesture like sending FTD get-well gifts can really show the person that you care. When you take the time to send a gift, you will demonstrate that you really are a great friend.

Step Away From the Laptop

Sometimes, you just have to break away from your laptop, or mobile phone, or whatever it is you are using to look at Facebook. Pacific Business News reported that the average person logs into Facebook almost 14 times per day. Now think about what you were doing and who was around you during those 14 times. Were you with your family? Were your kids trying to get your attention? What did you miss out on by looking at Facebook? If breaking away from the all-too-empowering website is too hard for you, don’t worry, there’s an app for that.

The Facebook Limiter app will not allow you to look at Facebook during times that you set. If looking at Facebook is taking away from your family time in the evenings, you could have it automatically blocked after 5 p.m. If you are too distracted during lunch dates with your girlfriends, here’s your answer. It is important that you are fully present when you are actually socializing. If you aren’t, well, you may start losing the opportunities to do so.

Think Twice, and Then Think Again

Love it or hate it, anything you put on Facebook can forever be accessed. While this is great to remember your baby’s milestones, it is not so great if you said something you wish you hadn’t. Before posting anything, think long and hard. Would you say it to that person, in person? Would you be OK with your kids seeing it when they get older? If not, just click delete and move on.

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